I'd Rather

Today is our fourth year anniversary. I couldn't believe how time seem to just pass by. In a matter of a couple of years I have attained fulfillment and utter joy with the company of two lovely people, my husband and daughter. My mother often asks me if I had any regrets on having to leave my single life behind. She probably thinks that I have not enjoyed being single as much as I have wanted to. Honestly, no regrets at all. Instead of feeling trapped or strapped down because of marriage, I felt quite the opposite. It's a feeling of complete openness, freedom and a sense of accomplishment whenever you see your family happy and healthy. I'd lie if I were to say that it was all a bliss. Hate to burst some of your bubbles but life is filled with uncertainty, problems and frustrations. But these are the very things that makes you love your partner even more. The difficult times in married life is essential for growth because it is through these times that we learn how to compromise, understand and balance each other out. In other words, it would either break or make you. Simple as that. But if you really love each other every obstacle would be just another chance to know him/her more. Only one song comes to my mind right now.

I'd Rather
Luther Vandross

I thought sometime alone was what we really needed
you said this time would hurt more than it helps
but I couldn't see that
I thought it was the end of a beautiful story
and so I left the one I loved at home to be alone
and I tried to find out if this one thing is true
that I'm nothing without you
I know better now and I've had a change of heart

I'd rather have bad times with you, than good times with someone else
I'd rather be beside you in a storm, than safe and warm by myself
I'd rather have hard times together, than to have it easy apart
I'd rather have the one who holds my heart.